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The Meaning Behind Juneteenth
DEAR HARRIETTE: I have a friend who has invited me to attend a Juneteenth event at our local museum. We often do cultural things together, so I'm down for going, but I feel uncomfortable because I have no idea what Juneteenth actually is. My hometown didn't celebrate this when I was growing up. Can you fill me in? -- Understanding History
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Child's Party Must Include Neighbor
DEAR MISS MANNERS: My daughter is turning 9 soon, and we will be having a small party with four of her closest friends. We are hosting the party at the clubhouse facility in our condo complex.
There is a fifth girl we know, "Kiara," who also lives in the complex, with whom my daughter sometimes plays. I consider her mom somewhat of a friend, ...Read more
New Roles, New Rifts
Dear Annie: I have a co-worker, "Jenna," who I also considered a close friend -- until recently. We've worked together for five years, and we used to grab lunch, text outside of work, even double date with our spouses. A few months ago, she got promoted to a management role in our department. I was happy for her -- truly. But since then, ...Read more
Husband Quick To Pass Judgment On Others' Behavior
DEAR ABBY: In the four years my husband and I have been married, his distaste for the LGBTQ community has grown into a passion. He calls it immoral and unnatural. I've never tried to change his opinion, but because I don't enthusiastically agree with him, he is convinced I'm going to hell. He uses nearly every conversation as an opportunity to ...Read more
Single File: Create Love
Admit it. You and I sigh for it. At times, we yearn for it. We dream of finding it embodied in one special person, discovering the real thing we crave. Everyone's always looking for it. We mask our yearning in a zillion different ways, but it comes down to hunger for the real thing.
But we can help make it appear in our lives. The very thought ...Read more

Ask Dating Coach Erika: Should I cancel my trip for my new boyfriend?
A woman recently messaged me with a dilemma. She had planned a trip to the Grand Canyon months ago with a platonic male friend. Since then, she started dating someone new, and after one month of exclusivity with her new boyfriend, she told him about the trip. The boyfriend’s reaction? Not good.
Her question to me: “Do I cancel the trip out ...Read more

Asking Eric: Care or burial plots falls to one family member
Dear Eric: As kids we went to the cemeteries with our parents and grandparents every year before Memorial Day. There are three cemeteries with family members, and I remember all of us working on each plot every year – planting flowers, digging, weeding then going out for lunch. All this takes preparation then daily/weekly care.
Now our ...Read more
Friend Upset About Uninvited Mom
DEAR HARRIETTE: My friend is celebrating her son's first birthday soon! We are all excited to be there for him, but it seems like my friend left a few people off of her guest list -- my mom being one of those people. We have been best friends since we were 13. Our parents are close, and my mom is always there to support her for special occasions...Read more
Paging The Public Transit Police
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am a Ph.D. student in a college town where the local public bus also serves as the campus bus, and students get free fare. As a result, it is often very crowded, mostly with undergrads.
At my advanced age of 30, I have learned (or at least thought I'd learned) that on a very crowded bus, it is accepted practice to get off ...Read more
Is It Too Late for My Happiness?
Dear Annie: After 45 years of marriage to a man who has no hobbies, no real friends of his own and little interest in life outside of his routine, I'm struggling with a mix of guilt, resentment and sadness.
For decades, I lived under his controlling ways -- so much so that when I finally started doing things for myself, I felt guilty for not ...Read more
Ex-Wife Has Held A Secret For Three Decades
DEAR ABBY: My ex-husband was found dead in his home three months ago. He was a bitter man who never forgave me for leaving him. We were divorced for 30 years before his death and have two children and four beautiful grandchildren. For years, he bitterly complained to our children and refused to attend special events because I left him. When ...Read more

Asking Eric: Five close siblings cut sixth out of fun plans
Dear Eric: I am a woman in my 60s with six siblings. Our parents are in their early 90s and have raised us to be thoughtful and respectful. Many of my siblings are female and have always gotten along famously, traveling together on girls’ trips and seeing each other for holidays and family celebrations.
In the past few years, it seems I’ve ...Read more
Content Creator Sister Makes It Hard To Connect
DEAR HARRIETTE: My sister is trying to become a content creator. While I want to support her dreams, it's starting to take a toll on our relationship. Every time we spend time together, whether it's getting coffee, going on a walk or just hanging out at home, it somehow turns into a content production day. She's constantly filming, taking ...Read more
When 'you Make Me Sick' Is Meant As A Compliment
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I have skills and interests that are rather unusual in modern times. I enjoy these hobbies immensely, though I make a point of not bringing them up with new acquaintances, since they are not likely to make a two-way conversation flow.
When I meet a friend of a friend, however, my interests are invariably a part of the ...Read more
Praying for Peace
Dear Annie: I am 40 years old, and my husband is 44. When we first got together, he treated me well, but things changed. Now, whenever I visit him, he drinks heavily and becomes violent. He has beaten me more than once, and I am ashamed to say it has happened many times.
He has also cheated on me. He has four children, and despite everything,...Read more
Husband Has Shown His Priorities Aren't At Home
DEAR ABBY: My husband works out of state for an oil rigging company 20 days out of the month. He gets 10 days off. When he comes home, we may have two days of quality time together. The rest of his time he spends on his phone outside.
When I recently had spinal surgery, he came home supposedly to assist me. My doctor gave him instructions to ...Read more

Asking Eric: Friend fears being losing wedding invitation over politics
Dear Eric: I have a good friend with whom I get together maybe twice a month or so. We disagree politically, sometimes passionately, but always end our conversation by telling each other that we are still friends and still love and respect each other.
A few months ago, her daughter got engaged, and when my friend shared this news, she said that...Read more
Nephew Feels Obligated To Help Dying Aunt
DEAR HARRIETTE: I have a family member who is dying. She is a grumpy woman, and everybody in my family is tired of dealing with her. Same goes for the people in the assisted living facility where she lives. They tolerate her, but they don't do anything extra because she complains constantly. She has always been grumpy, talking down to people and...Read more
Musicians' Formal Clothes Not Formal Enough
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I have had season tickets to the orchestra for a couple of decades. For evening concerts, the orchestra wears white tie, and women soloists wear evening dress. For afternoon concerts, the soloists still wear evening dress, and the men in the orchestra wear black suits, black shirts and black ties.
The musicians who are women,...Read more
Furniture, Family and Boundaries
Dear Annie: My husband and I recently agreed to sell our old lounge furniture, since we're in the process of buying a new set. We made the decision together, so I assumed we'd also agree on who it would be sold to.
He later called to say he found a buyer, which I was happy to hear -- until he added a twist. The buyer would be paying in ...Read more